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“Beautiful Suffers?” No, Let’s Talk REAL About Depression




Any person who has suffered with any type of mental health issues knows there is no glamour in feeling the way that you do. So, males and females seeing photos of ‘Tumblr girls’ in black and white photos with words written on the photo with ‘I want to die’ will understand how frustrating this ‘dark art’ is.

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It’s not beautiful.

It’s not glamour’s.

It’s not a thrill.


So what is depression? This question is so difficult to answer; we all feel sad from time to time to time and I don’t want to discourage people... But people who suffer with depression experience sadness, low mood intensely for a long time whether it’s months/weeks or years. It’s a serious medical condition which doesn’t only effect you mentally but also physically too.


So being depressed is just being sad then? No, even though feeling sad is a part of it. There are so many other emotions involved: - 
  • Frustration
  • Irritable
  • Guilty
  • Lacking in confidence
  • Disappointed
  • Indecisive
  • Anxious
  • Overwhelmed 


You said clinical? What other types of depression are there?! Well each type is very different but there are quite a few different types: - 
  • Dysthymic Disorder
  • Bipolar
  • Antenatal and Postnatal depression
  • Psychotic Depression
  • Melancholia
  • Cyclothymic Disorder
  • SAD


How can depression effect you physically? For a start, sleeping problems. Some nights I can sleep for 12 hours and others I only sleep 4 leaving me irritable and moody but also run down. Obviously a lack of sleep causes so many other problems and it then becomes a cycle. Other things such as:-
  • A Churning Gut
  • Weight Gain or loss
  • Headaches or muscle Pain
  • Feeling sick or being sick


Ok, why can’t you just cheer up? Wouldn’t that be amazing if you could? I think if it was a simple as that then we would all just switch this flip where we could just smile and feel all fine and dandy. But sadly, you can’t. It’s like you have this voice in the back of your head telling you that you can’t be happy. For example: -
  • ‘I’m a failure’
  • ‘It’s my fault’
  • ‘People would be better off without me’
  • ‘I’m worthless’


Right so why don’t you just change your behaviour to feel differently about yourself? It’s a difficult cycle. You’re not getting enough sleep; the fact you’ve gained weight has bothered you. You feel angry and irritated. You cannot enjoy activities once that you loved. It becomes almost impossible to be able to concentrate. You end up withdrawing from close family and friends and to feel like you can actually be sociable you then depend on alcohol or drugs.


OK, why do you even feel this way? What caused it? There is no one single cause of depression. It just happens. For me, personal factors such as my family history may have been a reason. But I will never know. However, depression is linked in the brain and it’s not as simple as a ‘chemical imbalance’. It’s complicated and there are a lot of causes such as genetic vulnerability which may have caused depression.

What advice can you give? It’s very difficult to give advice on depression because so many people deal with it differently. I try and focus on the future and what I will be and what I want out of life. When I have an episode. I can usually tell when they are coming because I go erratic and my eating goes crazy. When it comes I tend to prepare myself and allow myself to have a few sad days where I just sit in my pj’s and not do anything. Other days, I force myself to go out – whether it’s just for a walk or to see a friend for an hour. I try not to lose touch with reality.

My 1st Year At Uni

*REPOST FROM MY OLD ACCOUNT* 



Since I've seen a lot of people on my twitter newsfeed freaking out about results day. It made me reflect to this time last year and even though I cannot say much because what I was like this time last year was horrendous but as cliche as it sounds everything happens for a reason. 

Now, I didn't get in to my first choice of University (by one mark) but by results day I was just so relieved that I got into Uni I didn't care where I was - even though it turned out to be one of the best decisions (which wasn't actually my choice) of my entire life (so far). So anyway, I got in to my second choice and surly the people who didn't get in too this uni there would be room in halls right? nope wrong. So the day after results day, me and my dad started to panic because I never actually seen this uni! I just went of with what people told me (well that could have been a disaster!) anyway,whilst there I found out that all halls we're full and that I had to go to this event called 'House Hunting' which was so unbelievably stressful and sadly my parents had used their time off and couldn't come with me - on my own I went and to my surprise there were loads of students in my position. However something which school didn't prepare me for was how to interact with other people but luckily for me, I sat down by someone whilst filling my details in who was doing the same course as me! so we started to speak, then in the actual talk that they gave us they made us all interact. (What a life saver!) We formed a group quickly and then started to look for a house - we spent all day and let me tell you it was not easy and unbelievably stressful! Anyway, two of the girls dropped out and it became the three of us and we managed to get a house after two days. 
I can tell you now, school does not prepare you for your own house and how much money you have to pay before it. And it was so weird, however not living in halls had it's benefits. I actually had to talk to people in freshers and then tagged along to people's pre-drinks. I surprisingly made more friends living in a house than not - but this took time. In November/December time I became really down. I only lived with two other girls who travelled a lot to go back home or seeing their boyfriends. I used to hate coming home and I wasn't sure if I wanted to go on to my second year, I couldn't even be bothered to do my work. However, in one of my modules we had to do group work which meant I was interacting more with other students and then around February time after I came home from Christmas, Things got better because I got to know my course mates well and I started going out with them outside of uni and seeing more people! Me and one of my housemates started spending each night watching films and eating chocolate and unloading of each other. Things started to get better until my house contracted ended and I needed to move on from my house. 



Halls: So most people begin halls being in the same boat as each other, no-one knowing anyone. However me, I was intruding on these guys. I was absolutely terrified if they would hate me or well any negative feelings towards me! I moved in on the last day of February and for the first week, I hid as much as I could. Although you have to make food sometimes right? And that's when I started speaking to one of my flatmates who has now become one of my best friends in such a short time! after 4/5 days of having 20 minute conversation with her, whilst I had a few I knocked on her door and asked if she wanted to go to the SU that night - sadly she rejected me (owch) but then she asked me out on the Friday, which I am so glad I went out! Then came the next SU and I met someone from the flat opposite us, he then asked me to come out and I was going through stuff at the time so I was like "fuck it yeah" and that's where I met the males of my flat - however being the only girl out had it's benefits - FREE SHOTS! From then on in Easter time I was close to the boys and that one girl - then the next night I became close to the girls whilst having a film night and basically in a short amount of time living with these people - well they didn't treat me like an outsider, they were welcoming and now I am as close with them as I am with other people.



So If you're panicking about your results and worried about not getting into the 'right' uni. Trust me it may be the best thing that happens to you if you don't.