‘Am I an idiot who picks big giant losers? I thought he/she
was different’.
In a time of your life (if you haven’t already) you will go through a break up. Especially
now after results day a lot of relationships tend to crumble! Whether it’s with
your friend or a partner it will one day happen. I won’t lie, it’s painful. And
in all honesty; no matter how many times you go through it. It doesn’t get
better but you do develop a tougher skin for it.
My first break up with a boyfriend happened when I was
sixteen. I’d been with him since I was fourteen and loosing someone after
spending two years with them was difficult and There were so many mixed
emotions.
Looking back at the whole situation, I cringe a lot. As I got older I realise how silly the whole
thing was. But at the time I was hurting and did somethings… which were
embarrassing. Some of these things have been done to me and even though it
appears I’m aiming my post at younger girls. I’m really not. It shocks me that
I see 30 year old's on my Facebook doing the same things I was when I was 16 and
in my head; I mentally slap them. But we all do stupid things when we are hurting.
So further ado, here are some hints and tips that I
recommend that you do not do:
T I P O N E: D O N ‘
T D E L E T E P H O T O ‘ S
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| Look at the fringes! |
You may think ‘WHAT?’. All you may feel is that you want to
have a social cleanse of them out of your life. Even if this is the case now.
This person (may it have only been a month or three years) was at one time
important to you. No matter what they have done to you, you do share good
memorise with them as well as bad. Trust me, the way I looked at fourteen was
horrendous but I do wish I could look back at myself and be like ‘Aww look at 14-year-old
me, so in love so silly’ and chuckle to myself. But at last, I never kept
photos and deleted them.
T I P T W O: D O N
‘T T W E E T S T U F F
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| I was feisty |
When my time hop notification pops up on my phone I automatically
cringe. I see arguments, I see those ‘heartbroken’ statuses that I did. I just
want to hide in embarrassment that I actually felt the need to share my
problems with social media. Especially at the time, I had over 1,000 followers
reading arguments and people at school probably reading them and laughing at
me. Something so private shouldn’t have been so public.
T I P T H R E E: D O
N ‘ T S P A M
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| I just go to know |
I can admit that I have done this and it has been done to me
several times and it’s borderline stalking. Your so confused why this person
that you cared about could actually walk out of your life and not care how you
feel. All you want to do is talk and get some answers but god damn it they are
not answering your messages! And right now you don’t care if they are in work
or are busy.. You need to know! Don’t do this. You are wasting your time,
Majority of the time people just leave without explaining things but you will
honestly realise it’s for the better.
T I P F O U R: D E L E T E N U M B E R
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| Click it. |
One of the worst things you can do at 3 am is call them up
drunk and shouting/crying down the phone telling them you love them but you
hate them. You end up waking up in the morning with this churning feeling in
your stomach and praying to God that you did not just do that (But oh you did).
You’ll end up just putting your head in to your pillow out of frustration and
you also let your ex know that they still have power over you.
T I P F I V E : D O N
‘ T F A C E B O O K S H I T
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| *Cringe* |
One of the most cringiest and embarrassing things I have
done is writing status in 2011 saying how shit I felt and with people
commenting ‘are u k bbe?’ and my replies are there like ‘no :/ :/ :/’. I just
want to slap myself profusely. Not only did I open up my problems to 2,000
facebook friends (Including, my ex partner’s family and my family) also future
employers will one day see it. And let’s just say, some status made me seem
rather mentally unstable and it also opened up arguments with my ex’s so the
whole facebook world could read them/laugh at them and judge them.
T I P S I X : P U
T T H A T C O L O U R
B O T T L E D O W N
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| So many colours |
Me and my friend we’re discussing this the other day... No
matter how old you get, you will do something crazy with your appearance just
to change something about yourself. I can’t get over how many hair colours I
have previously gone to ‘reinvent myself’ or piercings. Then in the long run, I
spend a lot of money trying to get back my natural hair colour. My advice, just
buy some new outfits!
T I P S E V E N : D O N ' T E X P E C T I T T O 'J U S T' H A P P E N
I agree that getting over a loss over a relationship whether
it’s a friendship or a relationship. Time does heal all wounds. But you’ve got
to put work in too. Spend time with family and friends. Make that extra effort
with people. The worst thing you can do is sit around moaning 24/7 and not
doing anything about it. It doesn’t just ‘go away’.
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